genuine disgust for dust

happy wife

Ok so ever since we moved into a newly built home over a year ago I can’t seem to stop noticing dust. It seems as if everywhere I turn there’s dust. Dust on the tv. Dust on the table. Dust on the floor. Dust on the mirror, on the baseboards, on the fridge handles, on the nightstands and sure enough if I don’t use my damn pens every day there’s dust on them too.

Now, I do realize that dust is a perfectly natural part of everyday life and completely unavoidable but COME ON PEOPLE! Dust on the bathtub ledge?? We use that everyday, sometime two or three times a day!!! Now, truth be told by no means am I the worlds most neat and tidy woman or mom but one thing I am not, is dirty. I’m the kind of person that when a friend decides to pop by fairly unannounced, I’m literally in the bathroom 3 minutes before they arrive scrubbing, wiping and cleaning making sure it’s spotless because you see, filth is the biggest thing I cannot stand (well one of the biggest things…well all of the things I can’t stand are considered the ‘biggest’ things in my book but don’t get me started on that..) ANYWAYS…. you see dust is the one thing that no matter how often I dust, I turn around and 3 hours later and it’s like I’ve continually forgotten a spot. I mean how is it possible that dust can be created and collected within moments of it being cleaned up? It’s like the ninja filth of the planet. Ugh, just thinking about it makes me want to puke.

I don’t know why out of all the things that get dirty on a regular basis that the one thing that is probably the cleanest (germ wise) is the very thing that bothers me the most….and those who know me know that I’m a total germaphobe. It’s completely unexplainable and it bothers me to no end. I know I can’t change it but man, living with this vortex of the never ending dustcapades is starting to take a toll on my sanity…

Now you’re asking yourselves… “ok we get that you loath dust but what’s the point of your rant?” Well, I’m glad you asked and now that I’m done my ranting and raving I will tell you. Why don’t you ask yourselves what it is in your life that you loath? What is it that bothers you to no extent that it gnaws on your every day conscience and you can’t seem to get rid of it? You see, there are things that arise in our everyday lives. Things we have control over and things we don’t. Notice how the things we DON’T have control over we tend to let it get the best of us, control our every thought, reaction or even our desires? Yet, on the other hand the things we DO have control over we use excuses like “it won’t work”, “I can’t do it” or “what’s the point” and we avoid doing anything to change the outcome which  makes us dance around in the inevitability of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. We also sometimes think that if we complain about the things we can’t change, for whatever reason, people will be much more willing to listen or understanding. WRONG. People don’t want to listen to any kind of complaining.. ESPECIALLY about the crap you can do something about..

Anyways, the point I’m getting my friends is for us to stop obsessing about the things we can’t control and to let it go. And for the things we can control, we need to start taking action, makes changes and turn ourselves into mini Joan of Arc’s, never taking no for an answer and taking our homes, jobs and country by storm! In my case, I suppose I have to accept that I will be dusting until the day I die, however this is a much better alternative than letting it pile up and become solid matter that I have to one day scrape off. See I’ve already done something about it.. I’ve changed my mentality…and sometimes that’s all it takes. A simple shift in opinion or perspective and voila! It ain’t so bad anymore.

Am I alone in this thinking? I better not be. Especially after you read this post, you should all be nodding your heads and going, “yeah, this girl really knows what she’s talking about”… well even if I get “she knows half of what she’s talking about” I’ll take it… So whatever your “genuine disgust for dust” in your life is, take a moment and think about what you can do to change your perspective or  situation. Accept that you can either change it or can’t and then do something about it or move on…but whatever you do, don’t complain about it… CAPICHE? (if that’s even how you spell it..)

-A.

keep. it. simple.

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Yes. I know what you’re thinking. “HOLY BALLS THIS WOMAN HAS MADE TWO POSTS IN THREE DAYS?” Yea. Maybe I’m turning a corner here.. maybe this will be more frequent, maaaaybe not. Guess you’ll just have to keep tuning in to see! Anyways, I came across a photo the other day that struck a chord with me. Why do we tend to avoid problems, refuse to solve conflict and prolong forgiveness? Why is it that no one wants to deal with anything more than they perceive they are capable of? We seem to do everything in our power to go around, beside, over or under our problems in the hopes that maybe one day it will just solve itself. We avoid conflict like the plague (well some of us) and continue to throw fuel the fire when we let issue’s, even little ones, slide under our radar.

If you want to live a long and happy healthy life (provided you don’t get a unpreventable illness) then stop doing what everyone else does and start taking control of your life. I’m talking about real control. It takes courage to face your problems and strength to see them through. If I’ve learned anything over the last few years it’s that Your words mean everything until your actions don’t follow. Simply put, if you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE. If you love someone, TELL them. If you want to try something daring or different, DO IT. Stop living your life in the shadow of opportunity because the only place it will get you is to the valley of regret.

Now, if you were there, you told them and you did it and it still didn’t yield the results you expected then suck it up and move on. Life almost never goes the way you planned. It’s uncontrollable and too many times we focus on what we don’t have or didn’t get only to miss out on what we were really meant to have. If we start to focus less on the destination and more on the journey we actually learn to enjoy life no matter how it unfolds. They say when one door closes a window opens right? Well this only holds truth to those that are willing to see it. There’s a little quote I came up with, and yea I’m taking the credit because I’ve never heard it from anyone else sooo …..”Live as if you already have it and love as if you’ve already lost it. – a.l.b”  If we learn to live life as if we already have everything we need and could want we will recondition ourselves to be happy. If we learn to love as we do when we know it’s already too late, we will love with an unconditional, unselfish fierce kind of love. Don’t you want that kind of life?? I do.

So just remember that a lot of the difficulties or upsets in our lives WE, yes I said we, cause and fortunately they are preventable. However no issue gets solved by chance but rather CHANGE. Change the reaction and you change the outcome. Change the pattern/habits and you change the reaction. See what I mean? By keeping things simple we create less complications and havoc in our lives and in turn less stress on ourselves and those around us. Boiling things down to what they really are and doing what we really mean

In short. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Keep. It Simple…and in order to get there all it takes is to CHANGE one thing at a time.

– A.