what Frozen taught me that I already knew

 

It seems as if everyone and their dog is on the Frozen movie trend right now. Apparently it is the highest grossing movie of all time?! Whether or not that is true, there’s one thing you can’t deny – it has the ability to capture hearts and homes all over the nation. So I thought to myself there’s definitely more to this than meets the eye and I’m gonna pull some fantastic life lessons outta this one. So lucky for you I’ve compiled some of the things that I think that you probably already know but because you’re either too lazy to change or just too dumb to stop repeating your mistakes, I’m going to guess that you need this little refresher on people you need to be more like or avoid like the plague.

Enjoy.

Elsa
The kind of girl who even though she had a rough self image to start, after she got away from the environment that was obviously skewing her perception of herself she ultimately decided to LET IT GO. F*ck people and what they say.. Like who cares? They’re not you. They don’t live your life, experience your pains or acquire your gains (that rhymed – I’m awesome! lol) so who gives a flying f*ck. Here’s a little insider tip: there is no shortage of assholes in this world. In fact they seem to be populating like the plague these days. It’s a shame really but what this teaches us is that there’s always going to be someone out there who is either thinking or going to say something about you that is to your disliking. So beat them to the punch. Acknowledge your flaws and issues. Love yourself anyways – YOU are the very reason why you are unique which means no one can take your place so why the heck would you want to be anyone else ? People are going to either like you, love you, hate you, admire you, be jealous of you or talk about about you (be it good or bad) so why not give em something worth their while? So for the love of God.. and humanity just figure out how to DO YOU and do it well.

Hanz (this is a two parter)

I know what you guys are thinking – what a douche right? But I mean you gotta give the guy an itty bitty teeny tiny break. He saw an opportunity to capitalize on his future and he went for it. He dove in head first and committed all the way. Keep in mind he is still a douche and in no way am I condoning lying, posing, and or deceiving people to get what you want but what I am saying is that anything is possible when you put your whole being into it. Don’t think about failing or succeeding just think about doing what you set out to do and give it all you got, then times that by 10 and you’re set! The mind is a powerful thing and we can have, do or be anything we want as long as we believe it and commit to it wholeheartedly.

Part 2
Remember that old saying “If looks too good to be true, it is.”? Ya this saying has Hanz written all over it. Yea he’s an asshole. And ladies (and gents and vice versas) if you’re looking for that special “one” – don’t fall for the unicorn. It will appear to be the most beautiful, talented, funny, smart and best thing you never had but DON’T DO IT. Just don’t. Actually think it through.. Ask he (or her) questions about family, friends, last relationships. Then creep their Facebook like a mo-fo. Haha jk kidding… But seriously you do need to dig a little deeper because not all the glitters is gold. REMEMBER, they are a unicorn for a reason!!!! Which means there’s something about them that ain’t nobody wanna be roped to for the rest of their lives,  so in short – RUN. Run fast and far away and don’t look back because that’s when you doubt yourself and get sucked back into the vortex of misery on steroids.

Olaf

This is pretty self explanatory. Always try look on the bright side of life. I know that that is easier said than done but now matter how big or small, there’s is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel whether or not you choose to see it. Even if it looks as though it’s impossible, don’t stop dreaming or give up, after all he got to be a snowman during summer and didn’t melt! (of course that is a completely outrageous impossible situation for real life but is outlook can still be applied to any situation in life. I know that some of you (myself included) like to wallow in your own self misery and yes that can be somewhat satisfying and self-soothing in a sick kind of way but trust me… It gets you absolutely nowhere and hating anyone and everyone around you that doesn’t understand what you’re going through or give you the sympathy you so desperately crave. So GET OVER YOURSELF. Take a minute and try to find at least ONE thing that you’re grateful for and build off of that. Soon you’ll be able to get past the regular things that would have got you hung up for a while and you’ll be able to enjoy life more… and commit your negative Nancy attitude towards things that actually deserve it.

The elk:

Pay attention to the ones that love you the most. They’ll have your back and encourage you to see/do/be the things you never thought you could see/do or be. Sometimes when we are conflicted with ourselves and dealing with feelings or situation that we have a hard time understanding we tend to push those closest to us away. We tell ourselves that they just don’t understand and that they are not being supportive. When in actuality at least ONE of your friends or family knows exactly what you’re dealing with. There are like 6 billion people in the world right? So what makes you think you’re the only one who’s dealing with or going through what you are? Stop isolating yourself and putting your situation or feelings on the highest pedestal there is. I promise you that there have many people before you and there will continue to be many people after you that will experience what you’re going through. And even IF you don’t happen to know anyone personally then don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. We are HUMAN after all – and what that means is that we are not perfect and we rely on people and relationships to help us steer ourselves in the right direction. Surround yourself around the kind of people you want to be and low and behold – by beholding we become changed. It really is that simple. Harder to apply to our lives but believing it mentally is always the hardest part. Believing that you deserve more and are worth more than you think will make all the difference in the world. So stick close to those that love you beyond your faults, that support you beyond your own weakness and encourage you to do the things that you thought weren’t possible. End of story.

Anna

I really don’t have much to say about Anna.. she seemed a little annoying to me.. but the one thing that I can pull from her is to try to not to be so self-absorbed. She was hurting just as much as Elsa was and yet Elsa was too caught up in her own issues to notice. When we shift our thinking from about ourselves to others we will see that 1. We are not alone and 2. We can make a difference in others lives. All Anna wanted was a relationship with her sister and she couldn’t understand why that wasn’t possible. All Elsa wanted was to be normal and not worry about having to hide her true self from others. Together they could have loved and encouraged each other to be able to deal with anything that came their way but instead they both suffered alone. The point I’m trying to get to is be honest with your friends and family. Be real. Don’t be afraid of being rejected because even if that does happen, there are 6 other billion people that you can call family or friends. Look beyond yourself and try to make a difference in someone else’s life and when you start to do that, you won’t even noticed that it will start to make a difference in your life too. After all, who doesn’t want to kill two birds with one stone? For those efficient folks, this is the shiznat.

 

Alright that’s it. I’m done my rant.  So take this to heart – I’d rather not have to lecture you guys again…

– A.

 

when all is white with the world.

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Saturday morning I woke up to find a huge dump of snow in my front yard and neighbourhood and although I was slightly disappointed (as I thought we were past all the snow this winter) I secretly thought to myself “ahhh – how lovely”. It is now Monday and it is still snowing and apart from driving in it and around all the other people – I’d be happy if it stayed.

Have you ever thought to yourself why it is that when it snows everything is so much more peaceful? Beautiful?Traffic doesn’t seem to have quite the same buzz, ditches don’t look so filthy and full of garbage and blankets, even the ones with holes seem to feel so much more cozy.

Yes. There’s something about winter that has the ability to transport you back to into a place of solace. A place where, if only for a moment, time can stand still. Where nothing really matters as much as it does and how the intricate snowflakes somehow hypnotize your mind to go to that happy place we so rarely seem to stay in.

What I’ve asked myself is maybe it’s not just winter. Maybe it’s not just the cold or deafening sounds. Maybe it’s the white factor. The colour white (which isn’t really a colour, it’s a shade) is universally represented as pure. Something clean, untouched, good, righteous, love and so on and so forth. If we take and substitute the snow as a form or purity that covers our surroundings, if only for a moment everything seems right with the world. If we blanket our misgivings, mistakes, un-satisfying jobs, negative bank accounts, broken relationships and our disease riddled bodies in the purest of pure, the whitest of whites what do we get? Peace. Purity in our minds and righteousness in our souls. Isaiah 1:18 makes it even more interesting by saying:

“Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. (NIV version)

When God said this he was talking about his rebellious nation, the Israelites. Time and time again they served him and then rebuked him over and over again, for many years. All God was saying is that if they recognized him as their God and turned from their wicked ways He would reward them with many great things such as peace, love, acceptance, forgiveness, self-worth and so much more. His ultimate reward being eternal life in a world with no pain or suffering. And though it may not always be immediate we must remember that nothing in this world is, so why do sometimes think his rewards or answer to prayers should come in their time frame and not his? Everything does happen for a reason and if we get the chance to live long enough, we see it come full circle. Always. This makes me wonder though, if all it takes is my acceptance of God to eventually feel peace, purity and love (the blanket of white) then why wouldn’t I want it?

Lord knows I’m the farthest thing from perfect but he gives me strength and hope to keep working on it daily. And if only for a moment here and there – all can be white with the world.

– A.

genuine disgust for dust

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Ok so ever since we moved into a newly built home over a year ago I can’t seem to stop noticing dust. It seems as if everywhere I turn there’s dust. Dust on the tv. Dust on the table. Dust on the floor. Dust on the mirror, on the baseboards, on the fridge handles, on the nightstands and sure enough if I don’t use my damn pens every day there’s dust on them too.

Now, I do realize that dust is a perfectly natural part of everyday life and completely unavoidable but COME ON PEOPLE! Dust on the bathtub ledge?? We use that everyday, sometime two or three times a day!!! Now, truth be told by no means am I the worlds most neat and tidy woman or mom but one thing I am not, is dirty. I’m the kind of person that when a friend decides to pop by fairly unannounced, I’m literally in the bathroom 3 minutes before they arrive scrubbing, wiping and cleaning making sure it’s spotless because you see, filth is the biggest thing I cannot stand (well one of the biggest things…well all of the things I can’t stand are considered the ‘biggest’ things in my book but don’t get me started on that..) ANYWAYS…. you see dust is the one thing that no matter how often I dust, I turn around and 3 hours later and it’s like I’ve continually forgotten a spot. I mean how is it possible that dust can be created and collected within moments of it being cleaned up? It’s like the ninja filth of the planet. Ugh, just thinking about it makes me want to puke.

I don’t know why out of all the things that get dirty on a regular basis that the one thing that is probably the cleanest (germ wise) is the very thing that bothers me the most….and those who know me know that I’m a total germaphobe. It’s completely unexplainable and it bothers me to no end. I know I can’t change it but man, living with this vortex of the never ending dustcapades is starting to take a toll on my sanity…

Now you’re asking yourselves… “ok we get that you loath dust but what’s the point of your rant?” Well, I’m glad you asked and now that I’m done my ranting and raving I will tell you. Why don’t you ask yourselves what it is in your life that you loath? What is it that bothers you to no extent that it gnaws on your every day conscience and you can’t seem to get rid of it? You see, there are things that arise in our everyday lives. Things we have control over and things we don’t. Notice how the things we DON’T have control over we tend to let it get the best of us, control our every thought, reaction or even our desires? Yet, on the other hand the things we DO have control over we use excuses like “it won’t work”, “I can’t do it” or “what’s the point” and we avoid doing anything to change the outcome which  makes us dance around in the inevitability of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. We also sometimes think that if we complain about the things we can’t change, for whatever reason, people will be much more willing to listen or understanding. WRONG. People don’t want to listen to any kind of complaining.. ESPECIALLY about the crap you can do something about..

Anyways, the point I’m getting my friends is for us to stop obsessing about the things we can’t control and to let it go. And for the things we can control, we need to start taking action, makes changes and turn ourselves into mini Joan of Arc’s, never taking no for an answer and taking our homes, jobs and country by storm! In my case, I suppose I have to accept that I will be dusting until the day I die, however this is a much better alternative than letting it pile up and become solid matter that I have to one day scrape off. See I’ve already done something about it.. I’ve changed my mentality…and sometimes that’s all it takes. A simple shift in opinion or perspective and voila! It ain’t so bad anymore.

Am I alone in this thinking? I better not be. Especially after you read this post, you should all be nodding your heads and going, “yeah, this girl really knows what she’s talking about”… well even if I get “she knows half of what she’s talking about” I’ll take it… So whatever your “genuine disgust for dust” in your life is, take a moment and think about what you can do to change your perspective or  situation. Accept that you can either change it or can’t and then do something about it or move on…but whatever you do, don’t complain about it… CAPICHE? (if that’s even how you spell it..)

-A.