what Frozen taught me that I already knew

 

It seems as if everyone and their dog is on the Frozen movie trend right now. Apparently it is the highest grossing movie of all time?! Whether or not that is true, there’s one thing you can’t deny – it has the ability to capture hearts and homes all over the nation. So I thought to myself there’s definitely more to this than meets the eye and I’m gonna pull some fantastic life lessons outta this one. So lucky for you I’ve compiled some of the things that I think that you probably already know but because you’re either too lazy to change or just too dumb to stop repeating your mistakes, I’m going to guess that you need this little refresher on people you need to be more like or avoid like the plague.

Enjoy.

Elsa
The kind of girl who even though she had a rough self image to start, after she got away from the environment that was obviously skewing her perception of herself she ultimately decided to LET IT GO. F*ck people and what they say.. Like who cares? They’re not you. They don’t live your life, experience your pains or acquire your gains (that rhymed – I’m awesome! lol) so who gives a flying f*ck. Here’s a little insider tip: there is no shortage of assholes in this world. In fact they seem to be populating like the plague these days. It’s a shame really but what this teaches us is that there’s always going to be someone out there who is either thinking or going to say something about you that is to your disliking. So beat them to the punch. Acknowledge your flaws and issues. Love yourself anyways – YOU are the very reason why you are unique which means no one can take your place so why the heck would you want to be anyone else ? People are going to either like you, love you, hate you, admire you, be jealous of you or talk about about you (be it good or bad) so why not give em something worth their while? So for the love of God.. and humanity just figure out how to DO YOU and do it well.

Hanz (this is a two parter)

I know what you guys are thinking – what a douche right? But I mean you gotta give the guy an itty bitty teeny tiny break. He saw an opportunity to capitalize on his future and he went for it. He dove in head first and committed all the way. Keep in mind he is still a douche and in no way am I condoning lying, posing, and or deceiving people to get what you want but what I am saying is that anything is possible when you put your whole being into it. Don’t think about failing or succeeding just think about doing what you set out to do and give it all you got, then times that by 10 and you’re set! The mind is a powerful thing and we can have, do or be anything we want as long as we believe it and commit to it wholeheartedly.

Part 2
Remember that old saying “If looks too good to be true, it is.”? Ya this saying has Hanz written all over it. Yea he’s an asshole. And ladies (and gents and vice versas) if you’re looking for that special “one” – don’t fall for the unicorn. It will appear to be the most beautiful, talented, funny, smart and best thing you never had but DON’T DO IT. Just don’t. Actually think it through.. Ask he (or her) questions about family, friends, last relationships. Then creep their Facebook like a mo-fo. Haha jk kidding… But seriously you do need to dig a little deeper because not all the glitters is gold. REMEMBER, they are a unicorn for a reason!!!! Which means there’s something about them that ain’t nobody wanna be roped to for the rest of their lives,  so in short – RUN. Run fast and far away and don’t look back because that’s when you doubt yourself and get sucked back into the vortex of misery on steroids.

Olaf

This is pretty self explanatory. Always try look on the bright side of life. I know that that is easier said than done but now matter how big or small, there’s is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel whether or not you choose to see it. Even if it looks as though it’s impossible, don’t stop dreaming or give up, after all he got to be a snowman during summer and didn’t melt! (of course that is a completely outrageous impossible situation for real life but is outlook can still be applied to any situation in life. I know that some of you (myself included) like to wallow in your own self misery and yes that can be somewhat satisfying and self-soothing in a sick kind of way but trust me… It gets you absolutely nowhere and hating anyone and everyone around you that doesn’t understand what you’re going through or give you the sympathy you so desperately crave. So GET OVER YOURSELF. Take a minute and try to find at least ONE thing that you’re grateful for and build off of that. Soon you’ll be able to get past the regular things that would have got you hung up for a while and you’ll be able to enjoy life more… and commit your negative Nancy attitude towards things that actually deserve it.

The elk:

Pay attention to the ones that love you the most. They’ll have your back and encourage you to see/do/be the things you never thought you could see/do or be. Sometimes when we are conflicted with ourselves and dealing with feelings or situation that we have a hard time understanding we tend to push those closest to us away. We tell ourselves that they just don’t understand and that they are not being supportive. When in actuality at least ONE of your friends or family knows exactly what you’re dealing with. There are like 6 billion people in the world right? So what makes you think you’re the only one who’s dealing with or going through what you are? Stop isolating yourself and putting your situation or feelings on the highest pedestal there is. I promise you that there have many people before you and there will continue to be many people after you that will experience what you’re going through. And even IF you don’t happen to know anyone personally then don’t be afraid to reach out and ask for help. We are HUMAN after all – and what that means is that we are not perfect and we rely on people and relationships to help us steer ourselves in the right direction. Surround yourself around the kind of people you want to be and low and behold – by beholding we become changed. It really is that simple. Harder to apply to our lives but believing it mentally is always the hardest part. Believing that you deserve more and are worth more than you think will make all the difference in the world. So stick close to those that love you beyond your faults, that support you beyond your own weakness and encourage you to do the things that you thought weren’t possible. End of story.

Anna

I really don’t have much to say about Anna.. she seemed a little annoying to me.. but the one thing that I can pull from her is to try to not to be so self-absorbed. She was hurting just as much as Elsa was and yet Elsa was too caught up in her own issues to notice. When we shift our thinking from about ourselves to others we will see that 1. We are not alone and 2. We can make a difference in others lives. All Anna wanted was a relationship with her sister and she couldn’t understand why that wasn’t possible. All Elsa wanted was to be normal and not worry about having to hide her true self from others. Together they could have loved and encouraged each other to be able to deal with anything that came their way but instead they both suffered alone. The point I’m trying to get to is be honest with your friends and family. Be real. Don’t be afraid of being rejected because even if that does happen, there are 6 other billion people that you can call family or friends. Look beyond yourself and try to make a difference in someone else’s life and when you start to do that, you won’t even noticed that it will start to make a difference in your life too. After all, who doesn’t want to kill two birds with one stone? For those efficient folks, this is the shiznat.

 

Alright that’s it. I’m done my rant.  So take this to heart – I’d rather not have to lecture you guys again…

– A.

 

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when all is white with the world.

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Saturday morning I woke up to find a huge dump of snow in my front yard and neighbourhood and although I was slightly disappointed (as I thought we were past all the snow this winter) I secretly thought to myself “ahhh – how lovely”. It is now Monday and it is still snowing and apart from driving in it and around all the other people – I’d be happy if it stayed.

Have you ever thought to yourself why it is that when it snows everything is so much more peaceful? Beautiful?Traffic doesn’t seem to have quite the same buzz, ditches don’t look so filthy and full of garbage and blankets, even the ones with holes seem to feel so much more cozy.

Yes. There’s something about winter that has the ability to transport you back to into a place of solace. A place where, if only for a moment, time can stand still. Where nothing really matters as much as it does and how the intricate snowflakes somehow hypnotize your mind to go to that happy place we so rarely seem to stay in.

What I’ve asked myself is maybe it’s not just winter. Maybe it’s not just the cold or deafening sounds. Maybe it’s the white factor. The colour white (which isn’t really a colour, it’s a shade) is universally represented as pure. Something clean, untouched, good, righteous, love and so on and so forth. If we take and substitute the snow as a form or purity that covers our surroundings, if only for a moment everything seems right with the world. If we blanket our misgivings, mistakes, un-satisfying jobs, negative bank accounts, broken relationships and our disease riddled bodies in the purest of pure, the whitest of whites what do we get? Peace. Purity in our minds and righteousness in our souls. Isaiah 1:18 makes it even more interesting by saying:

“Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. (NIV version)

When God said this he was talking about his rebellious nation, the Israelites. Time and time again they served him and then rebuked him over and over again, for many years. All God was saying is that if they recognized him as their God and turned from their wicked ways He would reward them with many great things such as peace, love, acceptance, forgiveness, self-worth and so much more. His ultimate reward being eternal life in a world with no pain or suffering. And though it may not always be immediate we must remember that nothing in this world is, so why do sometimes think his rewards or answer to prayers should come in their time frame and not his? Everything does happen for a reason and if we get the chance to live long enough, we see it come full circle. Always. This makes me wonder though, if all it takes is my acceptance of God to eventually feel peace, purity and love (the blanket of white) then why wouldn’t I want it?

Lord knows I’m the farthest thing from perfect but he gives me strength and hope to keep working on it daily. And if only for a moment here and there – all can be white with the world.

– A.

Do YOU Lulu?

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Do YOU Lulu?

So I was surfing the net the other day and came across the latest addition in Facebook apps. Cosmopolitan has even gone as far as to describe it as “Sex and the City marries facebook”. With that being said, Lulu is the name and rating men is the game. This clever little app is for women only, it connects you to all your male friends and allows you to rate them anonymously.

And upon learning of this I had to check it out for myself. The verdict? It’s flipping hilarious! Although it’s a relatively new app and needs to gain more users the ratings are quite amusing. While checking out the ratings I did one of two things. I either gasped and threw my hand over my mouth in utter shock or I nearly choked from laughing so hard.

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With a variety of categories such as sex, humour, looks and more your answers give a rating out of 10. In addition to being anonymous, it keeps all activity off of Facebook allowing women to be brutally honest be it good or bad. The best part? After you’ve rated [him] you can choose from a number of pre-made hashtags to add to their profile without leaving too much of a personal opinion. The hashtags by the way, are fricken hilarious – #selfabsorbed #porneducated #50waysfromfuckedup #hotncold and of course the good ones like #opensdoors #loveshisfamily #sexualpanther #dudecancook and many more…
(notice how I place the sexualpanther in the good category *winks*) haha

Now, while this app is one-sided some may argue that it’s unfair and gives only a biased review there’s no doubt, that who ever said crackbook couldn’t get any more addicting was wrong. Rewind 8 years… Anyone remember Hot or Not?!

Anyways, this is going to open up a whole new facet to the dating world. I can see it now heads are going to roll.. Eventually the male version app will surface and before you know it people will be asking each other on dates and instead of saying yes or no the response will be “I don’t date hashtag mamasboys with hashtag hygenicallychallenged hashtag 6.5’s” or ” hashtag cantleavehousewithoutmakep hashtag daddyissues, hashtag golddigging 7.2, are you kidding me? No thanks”

So let me ask you a question, if you seen your brother or best friend on there would you rate them? Better yet, what about your best friends boyfriend? If it was an anonymous opinion would it really matter how honest you were? Would you even think twice? This gets me thinking about all the things people do when they think no one is watching or that they will get away with it. Any of my fellow readers out there caught a fellow driver picking their nose? Haha yea we’ve all seen it… Picking it like there’s no tomorrow.. Going for the gold… Olympic style! (ahh, I crack myself up sometimes) Getting all excited and shit when they finally get that booger they’ve been concentrating hard on grabbing for the last 1.5 minutes of their life. Yea we’ve ALL seen that before… annnd that’s 1.5 minutes of my life I can’t get back…

What I’m getting at is what is it in your life that you would do if no one was watching? If you were guaranteed to not get caught? Judging by the rapid rate of decline in humanities morality it’s highly likely that most people would do something relatively naughty like cheat on a spouse or partner or better yet rob a bank but this brings me to wonder.. If we are thinking about doing something we know we shouldn’t and it’s in the back of our minds, then is it not possible that our subconscious will someday eventually cause us to act out consciously? And if you’re not happy with someone or something in your life – this could one day turn out to be a scary thing. Never-the-less I think it’s safe to say that we need to make sure we’re in touch with our TRUE selves each and everyday. Not lying to one another about ourselves but more importantly not lying to OURSELVES. Being honest is always the best policy but it only works best if we practice it before we get to a place of no return. And if by chance you enter the point of no return then honesty is still the way to go because it’s the only thing that helps to mend the distrust that follows. Either way honesty helps build better relationships and prevent mistakes down the road.

Now provided that was a little heavy, this leads me to think, could Lulu be a way of helping people be more honest? Help people get a more accurate, real picture of each other? Or could this eventually make women distrust and hate men more than they already do (don’t even get me started on this one..) Well, there’s only one way to find out….

– A.