Hello. My name is Happy.


I’ve been pondering a bit lately about what it really means to be happy… I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, money in the bank (not much but it will do for now) and I have food in my belly, literally. I actually just finished a snack but you know what I mean.. lol Anyways, although I have a few contract jobs on the go, I still don’t have the career that by now I had hoped I would have and it’s been gnawing on my mind for months now. So I’ve been exploring options of going back to school, starting my own business and even applying for jobs that are in the industry that I plan to be in, in the future. And with all of those bright and exciting possibilities occupying the forefront of my mind I can’t help but to listen to that small tick in the back of my mind that says “why can’t I just be happy regardless of where I’m at?”

Then it dawned on me. What if I really am happy and I just didn’t know it? So then, this pushed me to really dive into one of the most cliched questions of all time: What does it mean to be happy? DUHN DUHN DUHN!!! It sounds like a never ending vortex of unanswered questions but in actuality it can be answered in a matter of a few minutes and a few short words.

By actual definition, happy is:


[hap-ee] Show IPA

adjective, hap·pi·er, hap·pi·est.

1. delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing: to be happy to see a person.
2. characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy: a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.
3. favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky: a happy, fruitful land.
4. apt or felicitous, as actions, utterances, or ideas.
5. obsessed by or quick to use the item indicated (usually used in combination): a trigger-happy gangster. Everybody is gadget-happy these days.
1300–50; Middle English;  see hap1 , -y1

o·ver·hap·py, adjective
qua·si-hap·py, adjective

1. joyous, joyful, blithe, cheerful, merry, contented, gay, blissful, satisfied. 3. favorable, propitious; successful, prosperous. See fortunate. 4. appropriate, fitting, opportune, pertinent.

1. sad.
(…..annnnd yes, I copy and pasted from dictionary.com)
       So the first thing, my friends, you have to ask yourself is not necessarily what does it mean to be happy but rather what makes you happy because by analyzing what makes you happy it allows you to understand the why. When you are able to really understand why something makes you happy then it becomes easier to identify the things that will help you achieve that happiness more often or identify the things that are preventing you from being happy. For myself, I have come to the realization that happiness is not a definition it is a state of mind. I’m sure you’ve all heard that one before and yep, I think there were at least one or two of you that just rolled your eyes at that statement but whether or not you believe it, it is still true. Remember watching those feed/sponsor the children commercials TV and seeing those children in Africa playing soccer with a half worn ball on the dirt ground with no shoes on their feet and wearing half dirty and torn clothes yet they seem happier than pigs in poop. Have you ever wondered why that is?

Well if we take what the dictionary says and add it to the soccer playing children in Africa scenario we get — (bear with me now) “The children in Africa are happy (delighted, joyful, pleased, glad, content, cheerful, favored by fortune) because they are playing soccer on a dirt ground with no shoes and half-worn/torn clothing.” It sounds ridiculous doesn’t it? But if you really think about it, it only sounds that way because we are too focused on the lack of shoes and worn down clothing. So, could it be that happiness really is a state of mind? If that is so, then happiness is subjective to ones own reality. Meaning, happiness is what you perceive it to be. Whether that means gardening, spending your last dollar on someone else, exercising, cooking (etc) makes you happy, it is unique to you and you alone. And if that is the case then why are we still so unhappy?

Oh what’s that? Well, I’m glad you asked. I will tell you why.

We are unhappy because we:

1. Spend all our time and efforts focusing on the things we don’t have or places we aren’t (i.e. money, vacations, shoes, your neighbors wife, that promotion and the list goes on and on and on.)

2. Let our happiness be defined by anyone and anything besides ourselves.

When we are finally able to let go of what our society deems as “happy” we might actually have a fighting chance of experiencing true happiness. When we stop translating how others view or experience their happiness into our lives then and only then can we truly be happy. Happiness is only relative to what YOU think it is. It is a subjective reality that everyone has in their own right. Your ideals, values, morals, standards and the very person that you are, are all ingredients to your happiness and when we take the “ingredients” of someone else and insert them into our own lives we end up with everything we never expected: disaster, regret, heartache and misery. And then we sit their all puzzled wondering what the heck happened and where it all went wrong. You wouldn’t see those children in Africa whining over the things they don’t have, sure that may be partial to the fact that they don’t know what their “missing” but what you have to know is that they have learned to weigh their happiness on a different scale than ours. A scale of simple pleasures and honest truths. Happiness is a choice no matter the situation, no matter the outcome. It means choosing the good over the bad. Learning to be okay with the uncontrollable factors in life and not allowing them to overcome or swallow you whole.

The point that I’m getting at is if you are unhappy or realize you could be happier than you are then I’m asking that you take some time to reflect and take everything out of the equation. Forget that you don’t have your dream job, that Joe’s house is bigger than yours, that Susie Q goes on vacation anytime she feels “stressed”, that your brother’s car is faster or that your best friends wife is a sex pot compared to yours. Let go of society’s ideal of what it really means to be “happy”. Forget it all. Boil it down to what makes YOU happy, not what other people (or society) deem as happy for themselves. Make a list of all the things but in more particular, the moments that make YOU happy . When you categorize things into moments, it’s much easier to figure out what makes you happy and why. Then when you think about the time that you went boating on Joe Schmoes new hydraplane jet/skit boat thing-a-magigy 9000 that was supposed to be SOOOO awesome but wasn’t because he’s a shallow tarty douche, you’ll remember that boating on your best friends rubber dingy made you happier because of the company and not because of the boat that you don’t have. Choosing to have this mentality will make us more grateful, thankful and content with the things we do have. It will help us to live in and appreciate the moment and not get stuck in a world that we may never live in.

So, the next time someone asks for your name you say “I am Happy” annnnnnd then you tell them that your parents were hippies and they were high when they named you. HA. nah I’m just kidding… We are what we think and what we think is what we believe and what we believe is who we are. Therefore choosing to be happy is much more crucial to our very core than we may understand and today I realize that by my own standards I really am happy. Are you? If not then you need to find out what makes you happy and then as Nike says: JUST DO IT.

“If you want to be happy, then be.”

– A.


move over, diamonds.

Ok, so I was re-reading some of my old posts from a few years back and had to share this one… Let me know if you agree… It’s an oldie but a goodie…Enjoy!

February 9, 2011

Alright, so they say that diamonds are a girl’s best friend, that may have been true 50 years ago but let’s step into the times of today. Back then, more often then not a diamond symbolized commitment & love between a man and woman. Whether it be a necklace, bracelet or even an engagement ring it meant they were together and sealing their love, if you will, with an indestructible token. Whatever happened to the days when women would dress up just to go grocery shopping? Or put on their diamonds just to greet their husbands after they came home from work? Yes, our times have changed, we [women] no longer are confined to the career of house wives or even just a entry level job. We have become empowered, liberated and more in control of our lives and futures. Now don’t get me wrong, this is an amazing transformation however sadly enough, the era of women appreciating the true symbolism of a diamond is gone. We now have careers, we make our own salaries and we can buy our own damn diamonds whenever we please, which I can also appreciate.  However in a way it also says that we kind of don’t need a man to give us one of most prized possessions he can give us. I mean doesn’t always make you feel good to show off a gift that someone else bought you? Particularly, your man? Therefore I propose a new diamond era.

Instead of buying diamonds let’s take a look at another woman’s prized possession; her shoes. Yes, we all know how much women love shoes but why? Well, it can be for many different reasons such as they can improve our posture, they’ll still fit you when you get fat (well as long as you don’t get so ridiculously large you can’t get out of bed or fit through a door frame) and lastly because they make one of the most awkward body pieces look sexy. I mean if you really think about it, shoes are a girls best friend. They are with you for almost all the most important moments in your life; your first job or best job, your first date, graduation, or your last date (depending on how you look at marriage) and of course all the other things in between and after. Now of course you have to wear shoes, everyday might I add, but for those kind of events you always pick your best shoes…you even tend to buy a new pair for every and any occasion, ladies am I right?  If we bought a diamond every time we had a special occasion or memorable event I’m pretty sure we’d be broke somewhere right around graduation, no? Or seeing as most of us don’t have jobs that make more than 8 bucks an hour during high school, you probably wouldn’t be able to buy yourself your first diamond till after graduation, but you get the point.

We also have to take a look at the process we go through in finding a man. What man is going to come up to you and compliment you on your diamond necklace or diamond ring? First off he’ll automatically think it’s probably from another man (cause that’s what men do, give expensive gifts and that’s because they bloody well should, I mean we should be treated like queens and any man who doesn’t isn’t worth your time TRUST ME) Second, if he doesn’t think about the first thing first then chances are he won’t see your jewelery because he’ll be too busy looking at well let’s face it your ass or tits…but during that process of checking you out, he will do a quick scan of those shoes you’re wearing and believe me 9 times out of 10 if he doesn’t mention how hot they are he’s most likely saying “DAYMN!” in his head.

*Side note* – ladies, if you’re out with the girls or at a function that requires you to look good, your shoes better be smoking and if they’re not, you should probably be forced to wax one eyebrow and walk around your neighborhood topless, cause that’s the message you’ll send, that you like to wear incomplete outfits… annnnd the eyebrow thing was just to add a little bit more drama to that effect…)

Alright, so this bring me to my closing point and the purpose of this blog. If women shouldn’t buy diamonds for themselves and instead buy shoes, then what shoe is going to equate the value of a diamond? I’m glad you asked. You see there’s a little designer who was born in France and grew up fascinated by showgirls and their costumes, particularly their movement. He cites this as his main inspiration for becoming a shoe designer: “[The showgirls] influenced me a lot. If you like high heels, it’s really the ultimate high heel – it’s all about the legs, how they carry themselves, the embellishment of the body. They are the ultimate icons.” His name? Christian Louboutin. Now, if you want a shoe that is exquisitely designed and expertly crafted, the “Rolls Royce” of shoes then Louboutin is your man. He states that his professed goal is to “make a woman look sexy, beautiful, to make her legs look as long as [he] can.”

Now, I would venture to say that about the same amount of time and skill goes into making both diamonds and shoes however the designs, colors and styles shoes can be made in, far outweigh a diamonds potential. The best part about a Louboutin shoe? It’s beautiful sole. The one noticeable thing that sets it apart from the rest of the shoe world, just like a diamonds shine. I don’t know about you ladies but the days of buying diamonds for ourselves should be over. I’m leaving the diamonds to the men, and starting an RLS Fund – Red Lacquered Shoe Fund. It’s time I own one of these darling beauties and if I just so happen to find a man that can appreciate these shoes just as much as I, well then he’s definitely a keeper… or maybe gay, hehe! In which case I’d have to keep looking but in any event, I’d rather save all my money for the RLS Fund and in return I’ll eventually get the diamond from the man who’s going to be there to appreciate all my shoes for the rest of our lives!

– A.

A trip down Vij’s Railway lane



I’ve got some good news and some really good news! I’ll start with a good news…I’ve had a friend visiting from out of town for the last couple of days and yesterday I suggested we go for a stroll around Stanley Park Seawall; he agrees and my brother decides to tag along too. So we finally make our way downtown around 1:30 and start feeling hunger pangs coming on and then it dawns on me.

BAM! I remember that a couple of days ago l discovered there are over 30 food trucks in Vancouver and I have never even been to one of them! Right then and there I made a vow to try all the food trucks, or at least all of the renowned ones this summer and then blog about it. So I used my mind control and dragged my possé to the nearest food truck and it just happened to be Vij’s Railway (which is more than awesome because of how much I love Indian food.)

(Side note: Anyone that knows me, knows how much I love to eat. I love everything about food. The way it smells, they way it looks, the way it tastes and heck! Even the way it makes me feel! I love food and I love to eat.. And I should literally be 500lbs for this sick addiction….buuuut I’m not..so on with the eating.. And this post)

Vij’s is a world famous Indian restaurant located on 11th and Granville st in Vancouver. The reason they hold this prestigious reputation is most because they are unique with their approach to their menu. Vij’s prides themselves on creating dishes that stray away from the traditional way of cooking in a Tandoor oven. They only use local ingredients and take their spices and cooking techniques straight from all regions of India. I have had the pleasure of visiting this restaurant once before and since discovering they have a food truck that wanders the city, I just HAD to try it. Needless to say, a few bites from their food truck location was all it took. You can rest assured I will become a repeat customer, often.

That being said, we tried 3 dishes.. The lamb kabob, butter chicken and the halibut cheek curry. You want my opinion? Well you’re going to get it. Grab a napkin because this calls for some legit drooling.


The Butter Chicken
– This golden nugget may be a timeless classic but leave it up to Vij and he’ll re-invent the wheel! What makes this dish unique is not just its flavorful taste but the crunch! The butter chicken is battered and deep fried which adds even more of complex profile to this already amazing dish. I even liked the rice.. PLAIN. Yea.. And that says a lot.

The Halibut Cheeks Curry
– holy heck I have never and I mean never tasted halibut that was so perfectly cooked before. Literally melting in my mouth with every bite…but the sweet and savoury sauce was the kill factor in this dish. Delicious from beginning to end!

And for my favourite…

The Lamb Kabob
– not sure why its called the Kabob but who cares that this dish isn’t on a stick?! It was completely out of this world. The intense depth of flavours, literally blew my mind. The meat was so moist and perfectly spiced. Not to mention the mint sauce? You can’t have lamb without mint sauce.. It’s like have a PB&J sandwich without the PB or J or bread for that matter. This dish is nothing short of perfection. It’s like heroin to a food addict. No joke.

This trip was everything I had imagine and hoped for it to be. And just think, this is the their FOOD TRUCK. People, if you haven’t tried Vij’s Railway or the restaurant drop what you’re doing now and get your ass out there, it’s time for your #Indiancoma. It will be worth every bit of your time, money and taste buds. I promise.

OH! and I almost forgot. The 3 gentlemen working that day even gave us a free mango drink each! It was such a nice gesture, although I’m pretty sure it was because they had never had a customer that was so damn enthusiastic about trying their food. I was literally squealing..so maybe it was just to shut me up?? I guess we’ll never know.. oh well, I’m okay with that too.

Now on to the next one.. Foodie’s stay stuned.

– A.